My husband has a disorder. I call it selective listening, and answering. What is wrong with saying "okay" just to verify you heard something even if it wasn't a question? Furthermore, what makes it impossible for you to hear something while the tv is on? I have had my moments of being sucked in to a show where I didn't hear something, but isn't it pretty normal to occasionally comment on a movie during it, or talk to your husband during a commercial? Then again it isn't the TV that is the problem, he can be looking at mail or simply thinking and miss every word. The sad thing is that usually I am telling him how hot I think he is or something I thought he would find amusing and he still doesn't hear! I understand being slow to respond when I ask you to change a diaper, but when I am coming on to you please have the courtesy to respond in any way. I would not say I am high maintenance by any means other than I thrive on affection. This is our long time fight. Why don't you kiss me more, or for longer, or even look at me like I am desirable? His response-"I think it, I just don't say it." While we were at Lake Powell, I put on a new swim suit that is red and ties at the top. He actually made the comment that I looked like a stripper. Frankly, I was stunned, I knew that he had not meant it to be offensive and that he may even have thought it was some sort of compliment somehow. It left me bewildered for the rest of the day.
Now, just to make myself clear, this is not meant to be telling what a terrible husband I have. Anyone who knows me will vouch that I adore my husband. Nor is this meant to say that I am the perfect wife, I am terrified at the amount of flaws that could be listed by my husband. It is simply to say that some men were not born with a sensitive, doting gene. And for all of his fabulous qualities, there is no such thing as the perfect man or the perfect marriage or the perfect relationship that has no bumps. This is an example of a silly manism that makes life interesting and I felt like writing(typing) it down.
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And the selective hearing/listening/answering starts a a very young age. ALL of the males in my home (and my entire family) have the same disorder. Or I like it when I think Sei is listening and then he starts talking to Liv in the middle of my story or whatever. He has no clue that I am talking to him- at all. Or I can stop talking to him mid-sentence and he doesn't even notice because he wasn't paying attention to begin with. Ugh.
Strippers are HOT! No worries.
I haven't had more than a peck on the lips in YEARS! At least he gives you an open mouth kiss even if it is short. I totally understand a hubby not responding to a come on. Long time fight at our house too. Blah...
Love you! Good luck makin' that boy listen!
I know another workaholic (obviously not my husband) like Trent who treats his hot wife with the same indifference. They're just tired and a little retarded, but we still love them.
Really amazing! Useful information. All the best.
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